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на роль человека с трудной мужской судьбой претендую всё–таки я
"We are the most in debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in US history. The problem is, that you can not selectively numb emotion. You can't say here is the bad stuff, here is vulnerability, here is grief, here is shame, here is disappointment. I don't want to feel these, I'm going to have a couple of beers and a banana muffin.

When we numb those, we numb joy. We numb gratitude. We numb happiness. And then, we are miserable, and looking for purpose and meaning and then we feel vulnerable, looking for beer and banana muffin, and it becomes this dangerous cycle.

So we perfect. We perfect most dangerously our children. They are hardwired for struggle when they get here. When we hold those perfect little babies in our hand, our job is not to say, look at her, she is perfect, my job is to keep her perfect. That is not our job. Our job is to say, you are imperfect, and you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.

And we pretend. We pretend what we do has no effect on other people. Just be authentic and real, say sorry, we will fix it.

There is another way. To let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen. To love with our whole hearts, even though there is no guarantee. Practice gratitude and joy, in moment of pain.

Most importantly: To believe we are enough, then we stop screaming and start listening, we are kinder and gentler to people around us and we are kinder and gentler to ourselves."



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